We are their superhero!!!

Have you ever felt like you aren't capable of being a great mother? Like you might fail them because

of the things that you have done in your past, or because you don't feel qualified enough. Having children is the one thing that people can give advice on, but in the end it is all trial and error.

Even now that I have been a mom for a while sometimes I still feel "can I do this and not mess these beautiful babies up"? With my attitude that I am working on everyday, I worry. I pray that they don't have the same type of attitude I have. We are the person the look up to just like their favorite superhero.

I know that my mouth has got me into a whole lot of trouble and I don't want that for them. Making sure that they don't see me getting in to it with people is a big deal to me. I am learning that control is the key to making sure it doesn't happen.

I get so scared with all these crazy folks that are in this world. We send are kids to school to get the best education they can get, and not to be hurt. Sariah and I were talking the other day and she told me that she didn't know if she wanted to go to first grade because she was nervous about the kids. Also she is worried that the teacher wont teach her anything. It is time for superhero mom to the rescue.

That is something that I am worried about all the time too. I think as a mom we always worry about the little things. Am I going to mess them up? Is this world so messed up that it might interfere with my children way of life?

I want more then anything in this world to always protect them, but I know that all I can do is make sure I teach them the ways of the world. As I am getting ready to send Sariah to school in the next couple of weeks I am making sure that I teach her, right and wrong.

Never again will I allow for her to get beat up and think that if she fights back that she will get in trouble with me. My poor little girl thought because the teachers say "If you fight or touch someone else, you will have to flip a card. Also you will be a bad kid." that she couldn't defend herself. Not ever will this happen.

It is very important that no matter what age you sit down with your kids and explain to them the importance of self defense, and bullies. They are in every school people. Don't be naïve and think that your child is safe.

As a mother it is are job to lead and protect. Make a difference and talk everyday with your kids. It will help them in the end, and make you feel more capable to be their mom. Having an open door policy with them is key to great parenting. After all we are their superhero mom.

If you don't have an open door someone else will. Not a good look, nor is that the safest thing in todays world.

Thank you for reading and I love you all.

Put them first!

Right, and even if you are 21
it does not make it right!!!

Do you dedicate yourself to work, friends, or something that you love to do? If you can answer "yes", then why are you not dedicating yourself to your children. I see a lot of mothers that I went to school with, and all I see is them partying. I cant for the life of me understand how you can have children and expect that your life isn't supposed to change even a little.

Your mom/ dad or even your grandparents didn't make the choice to have those babies. You did. Okay so maybe you feel like "I wasn't ready to become a mother"., but honey reality is you are a mother. You have to stop thinking selfishly. It is time to take care of those responsibilities .

Not everyone should be!!!

I am not saying roll over and die. No ma'am, but I a saying take care of your damn kids and stop clubbing and spending your last to get all done up. I have a right to my opinion and I am can express it how I feel. If this hurts someone I will not apologize for it.

As a women that takes care of her children faithfully with a mommy me time date here and there I have the right to say "you are being wrong and selfish". Now what I am about to say might hurt so brace yourself. If you cant handle the truth you might want to leave now.

I see a great deal of women shopping for themselves and going to the hair and nail shop, to get all beautiful for a few hours out on the town. While your kids sit at home with only bread, peanut butter and jelly for dinner. No new clothes or shoes to wear, but the hand me downs someone gave you. I cant understand.

Now you may be saying "my kids got clothes, shoes and a lot of food". Okay then how about one better. Your kids at home being raised by your parents. You think that when they get older they aren't going to remember? That is something that they will be throwing in your face later on in life when you try to discipline them.

You may think partying is only for right now, but honey let me tell you "your kids will only be small once, and all these memories that you are missing out on you can get them back".

Stop being self absorbed and think about those innocent babies. They need you more then you could even know. Moms are so special to children. I see how my girls look at me and it melts my heart. They lean on me for direction, clean clothes, food and so much more. I couldn't even fathom allowing someone else the opportunity to take care of my girls and my son.

I look forward to waking up in the morning and making breakfast for the girls (even though I hate cooking breakfast). It is a time that I cherish. I love hearing what they dreamed about. It takes me back to when I was innocent and nothing in this world mattered to me but my mom. It is amazing. To live life through the eyes of your kids.

Take the time to evaluate yourself. I am not checking your pocket books, but you should. Materialistic things wont buy your kids love. Time is the only thing that will get you that indescribable love only your kids can give you. They aren't judging you by the clothes you have, the nails you wear and the hair you buy. Come on ladies, its time to step it up and put those kids first....

Thank you for reading. I just needed to vent. I had to get this off my chest. I feel so bad for these babies. Love you all.

Do you!!!

"I need a break from the kids, I just want some me time". Can anyone else relate to this? I am almost

I took some time for myself, and I enjoyed
every moment. Tamar and I at her concert.
Meet and greet baby!!!

sure that every mom goes through this. I see a lot of people asking me questions about not losing themselves. Well I believe that the one way is to definitely have some mommy me time.

Some moms are scared to take a few hours to themselves. I am not saying that you need to leave the country and go away for a week. Just a couple of hours away will do you some good. I know that I like to take a trip to the nail shop and then to Barnes and noble. That is me though. There are so many things that you can do in a short amount of time that will take you away from all the madness going on at home. Yes I did just say madness.

When your house looks like a tornado went through it, and the kids are screaming at each other and fighting. When your husband seems like he has a stick up his ass. It is time to do something for you. You deserve it. You are the glue that holds the family together so why shouldn't you go out and take your mind away for a second?

Since moving away from my friends and family I have only done a few things for me. My most favorite thing was going to Tamar Braxton's concert. Yes, I went by myself and had the time of my life. I notice that having kids has given me the courage to step out on my own. Something that I would have never done back home if I didn't have kids.

I am starting to find "Myself". This is something a lot of moms struggle with. Your whole identity is not "mom". Don't ever forget that. That is only apart of who you are, not a whole. Once you can look in the mirror and recognize this then you will finally be able to set a side a day and time for just you.

For me it is hard because I stay at home with the kids and Shawn is always working to provide for our family, but if he is home for the day mommy is stepping out to do her. I don't do clubs because I don't like to be around a bunch of ignorant people that can only seems to express themselves because they have been drinking. Now I am not judging those of you that like the club, but this momma say "No Thank You".

If you don't feel good about yourself and know who you are, how can you teach your children to find who they are? It is impossible. We give so much of ourselves that we end up losing "us". It is time to take some of "you" and treat it with love and care. I say "date yourself".  Get all done up and do you. Stop worrying about what others will think and say. Who cares?

As a mom we are superheroes in our own right. Even superheroes need a break. Remember if mom isn't happy, then no one is happy. Enjoy the women that you are. Hit up the nail shop, spa or take yourself to a movie. Although, why hide all that sexy in the dark, okay!!!

I love you all for reading. I hope this helped someone.

Building memories one day at a time.

One thing that is so very important to me is making memories with my kids. If I don't then who will? Our time here on this precious earth is not guaranteed. God forbid anything were to happen I want there to be pictures and memories built of our family.

My girls like some of the most simplest things in life. Just taking a drive down to the strip and walking through the hotels, makes them happy, as does it for me. We enjoy the beautifulness of the figuring's and gardens throughout. Also they have some of the best shopping as well.

Yesterday we decided to go walking through what I think is truly a  magnificent hotel. The Wynn. I mean the view of the waterfall, and the flower garden inside is so breathtaking. My girls kept asking to take pictures. Yep, they are definitely mine.

After which we went across the street and walked around the best mall on the strip (like one that

regular people can afford, lol). My girls were so excited to watch the fashion show that they do in the center of the mall. They said " We want to do that as well". Whatever they want they can have if they put their minds to it.

I am so in love with these moments between us. Making memories is a must and as a family it is something that I cherish and keep close to my heart. When I was younger we didn't have much money, I mean my mom raised 4 kids on her own, but what I remember the most is going to the mall with my mom and eating lunch with her. I loved getting on the bus and heading out to the Cerritos mall. It was a favorite thing of mine.

I also remember going to amusement parks as a whole family, which never has happened since I have had children. My whole family doesn't do things together usually. It is okay though because my girls will build family memories with us.

Since moving away from everyone and everything we have ever known I have been making sure to keep my girls spirits up. I don't want them to ever be sad that our family is miles away. I am glad that we have each other, and we will continue on with building special moments that we one day will look back on.

Today we are going to head out with my brother and his wonderful kids and fiancée. They are in Vegas for a few days, so let more memories be built. 

Need help

That moment you've tried everything and it seems as though your kids still don't

listen. It is so hard, because I've tried it all and still they aren't listening. No this doesn't make me a bad mother, it makes me " a mother".

 

Sariah and Kamille seem to be working in cahoots with one another. I cant for the life of me figure out what it is I can do. I feel like I've tried everything. I have went through all their toys and got rid of a bunch. I take away their DS games. No Netflix, ipad or any electronics. It doesn't phase them.

 

Now im sure a few are thinking "just whoop them girl". Only if that worked. Some children don't care about a getting whooped. That would be mine. Being whooped doesn't always help, trust me. I know a few that used to get their behinds whooped and they are not better off than before.

 

So what is left to do? They are 4 and 5 years old. I cant make them do standards they wouldn't understand why. I can make them do community service because they are to little. So, what is left?

 

Has anyone else had this issue and overcome it? Please let me know. I know that I cant be the only one that is experiencing this.

 

I don't feel incapable of punishing them. I just feel like what I am doing is not working anymore. They are very strong headed girls. I cant be mad at that because so am I. I wasn't the best child and we all know that.

Listening was not my forte. So if anyone had any suggestions that might help, please let me know. Thank you everyone.

"YOU ARE A MOTHER"!!!

From the moment you think "I might be", to the moment you find
out "I am" "You are a mother". Even if you never heard the heart beat "You are a mother". Just because you didn't get to feel their kick "You are a mother". Even though you never will get to take them home, "You are a mother". So what you had to give them up for adoption "You are a mother". If you didn't get the chance to watch them grow because they got their angel wings earlier than expected "You are a mother". Its okay you had to play mommy and daddy. "You are a mother".

"I am looking forward to seeing the kind of person my son will be. His little personality and his little smile. I am a mother".

"I hate the teenager years, the mood swings, the "mad"itudes for no apparent reason. I am a mother".

"They are my motivation to pull through in life. I am a mother".

"I hate that because I have spoiled them rotten that when I say I don't have it, they don't understand. I am a mother".

"I love the unconditional love that each kid gives to me. I am a mother".

"I hate that I cant protect them from the pain and hurt in the world. Having to let them make their own mistakes. I am a mother".

Regardless of your situation "you are a mother". Some say that if you don't
physically have the child you are not. I say other wise. I celebrate each and everyone of you today. "You are a mother".

"I love the thoughtful things my children do/say without being asked. I am a mother".

"I am not looking forward to the dark thoughts I know will come at night. That I am not able to be the mommy I want to be. I am a mother".

"I love that becoming a mother exposed me to the world of holistic health care. I am a mother".

"I hate mommy wars. I am a mother".

"I love the simple joy that my daughter finds in life, like bubbles and flowers. I am a mother".

"I hate the first trimester of pregnancy. All the sickness its awful. I am a mother".

In life we have obstacles. Some that are easy and some that we really have
to work hard to overcome. Becoming pregnant is one of those obstacles. For some there mere thought of a baby gets them pregnant. That isn't the case for everyone. Some may never get to experience the joys of motherhood through the womb., but by adoption. "You are a mother".

"I love the immediate indescribable love you feel for your kids. I feel it most at night while rocking mine to sleep. I am a mother".
"I hate that I cant ever give up. It is especially hard when I have so much going on in life and I cant deal. I am a mother".

"I love seeing my child apply something that I taught. I am a mother".

"I hate that my kids are old enough to make their own decision and I have to accept them, even though I know the are making a mistake. I am a mother".

"I love that when I am down and out and thinking negative thoughts about leaving this place, just thinking about my kids saves me. I am a mother".

"I am not looking forward to my post-partum body. I am a mother".

Being a parent is a different experience for everyone. Sometimes we get pregnant and we don't feel like it is our time to become a mother. We aren't ready. We think about "do I keep it, get rid of it, what am I going to do"? Adoption becomes an answered pray to some family. "You are a mother".

" I love seeing her every morning and every night just smile at me. I'm finally a real mommy, and it's such a great feeling. I am a mother".

"I hate that he is so far away and there is nothing I can do about it. I never regret my decision to place him for adoption, but sometimes I wish circumstances had been different when he was born so I could have him now. I miss him so much, and there will always be something missing in my heart, but I know I gave him the world. Had I kept him, he probably wouldn't be in my custody now. I am a mother".

"I love watching my son grow. Watching him reach milestones and seeing his personality shine through. I am a mother".

"I hate I feel like I failed my daughter, because I picked a man wouldn't be my husband or a father to her. I am a mother"."

"I am looking forward to breastfeeding. I know it is going to be difficult, but I want to bond/connect and look into her eyes. I am a mother".


"I hate people questioning my parenting especially when I didn't ask for an opinion. I am a mother".

Just because things didn't play out the way you wanted you haven't failed. Sometimes life gets in the way. We do things we aren't proud of, and make choices we soon regret. "You are a mother".

"I love that we will always be a family despite our situation. I am a mother".

"I hate the anxiety that comes with motherhood. I constantly doubt myself, am I doing everything right. I am a mother".

"I love spending time with my daughter, watching her grow and blossom into the young lady she is. I am a mother".

"I hate feeling alone with our kids even though I have a husband home. I am a mother".

"I love that I am able to witness her many talents. She bring joy and
happiness to my heart. I am a mother".

"I hate my pregnancies are so hard that I never get to enjoy them. I am a mother".

     Psalms 127:3 

Behold, children are a gift of the LORD, The fruit of the womb is a reward.

No matter how you were blessed with them, they are your gifts. Love them and cherish the moments you have together. It may get rough, you may lose sleep. But, their are women dying to have the opportunity to become a mother. Don't take it for granted.

No one may ever tell you this but only once a year, and to me that is not enough. We moms are under appreciated. From one mother to the next I will celebrate you and this wonderful thing we get to call motherhood. Lets make a difference in the world. Not judging each other but uplifting one another. I love you all and believe in you. No matter what circumstance you are in or have been in.
                                                             "YOU ARE A MOTHER"!!!

 

 

 

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My day!

Today was a lazy kind of day, really didn't do to much. Not feeling too good if you ask me. I did although

head over to the college to see about not retaking the placement test. I finally received my transcripts. It seems like forever. I guess because I am not physically in Long Beach. They make you download a page, print it out sign it, and then fax it over.

It felt like I had to pull teeth in order to get "my" transcripts, but I did it. Thank God. Anyways I have to go back Monday to talk with The English department and Math department so they can give me my classes. I am so blessed to take the first few steps so I can go back to school and further my education again. If I could I think I would stay in school forever, I actually enjoy it...

After that we went to target for a few items and then back home. Like I said my body isn't feeing well. Not sure if it is this heat that is getting to me or what. I cant be sick though I have 3 little ones depending on my every move... HELP!!! LOL. Ill be fine though.

Now we are watching the movie "Cars" Logan actually sits and pays attention. It is so cute. I think he is more alert than Sariah and Kamille were at his age. Babies these days are so smart and much more advanced.

While watching the movie, Kamille is attempting to make my hair look like Elsa from the movie FROZEN!!! She does this at least twice a day, it is so sweet. She acts like she is making a YouTube video for her fans. LOL.

Bath time is next for them and then story time. Hopefully they will call it a night early because mommy needs some quite time. I am so excited for this blog that I am doing for tomorrow. I cant wait, and I  really am hoping that everyone is going to enjoy it.

I am so grateful for all that sent in. It makes this blog that much more special. Well everyone it is an early night for me. I have a lot to get together in order to make my blog special in the way I want. Have a great night.