It doesnt have to be like that!!!

I didn't know if I was going to blog about this subject because it is almost like politics to me. The

problem is that it is heavy on my heart. So I know that means I must. In this crazy world that we live in, it is our duty to fully protect our children. Sometimes things happen that are out of our hands, but once we get word of the situation we are to grasp it and handle it immediately, and as adults. Please if you are going to be bias and ignorant I am asking you to leave the blog now. This is a place for me to vent and hopefully help other mothers out.

Most know that I am not the nicest person when it comes to my kids. They mean the absolute world to me, and if I could protect them 24/7 I sure would. Sariah who is my oldest started kindergarten last year and I couldn't have been more excited for her. Seeing that smile on her face when I took her for registration was priceless. We all grew up thinking that school was a safe haven for our kids, but in the last few years that hasn't been the case. A lot of bad has happened to students, innocent little hearts taken away too soon. Now I understand that God is the creator of all, he writes out our lives before we are even born. Still I can never understand why the things that happen in this world do, and I guess it isn't for me to understand.

Now I would send my baby to school everyday with her hair nice, a cute outfit on and some beautiful earrings. I knew that she wouldn't come home looking the way I sent her. It is kindergarten for crying out loud. What I didn't expect was for her to come home and tell me that someone had pushed her in the mud and not one adult did anything about it. Nor did they think to let me know. Oh, and did I mention it was picture day? Yes. I went back up to that school to speak with the principal, but I automatically knew that he wasn't about to do anything. So, a few weeks pass and riri comes home to tell me that a little girl in her class cut her hair. WTH!!! Are we for real right now? How in the hell did a little girl cut my babies hair and the teacher didn't think to tell me. I didn't wait to for the next day to come, I went straight to the office and demanded to speak with someone. Of course to my surprise no one that had any authority was there.

Now I am about to be 100% honest, I wanted to beat that little girls moms ass. Then I thought is it worth it?  I believe children are the way they are because of how they are raised. If you allow them to act like they are being raised in a barn then that is how they are going to act. If you dress them like a gang member then that's what they will become. I told you don't read this if you are biased on this topic. I am giving you a moment to leave..... That moment is now up. On with my rant. Parents you are the example for you child/children. Get your stuff together and stop acting like it is funny when your child cusses, or when your child hits their brother or sister and laughs about it. I have always heard the saying " you are to train up a child", so I do blame the parents. When your kids get older they usually test the waters a bit and act out. If you did your best then they will come to a decision to either stray or get it together.

So long story short the principal still didn't do a damn thing. At this point I was so through with this school. It took a few more things to make me pull her out, but I was glad that I did. She then went to a school that was very strict on violence and academic well being. Which was an A+ in my book. Sariah did well and had no real issues until the end of the school year. When a little boy who has had numerous encounters with the office thought that he should take it upon himself to hurt my child. Sariah is usually not a timid person. She will protect and defend herself if need be. The thing is she has been learning that violence is not the answer. I went to pick her up from school and I noticed that she wasn't herself. Her head was down and she looked like she had been in trouble. ( this is where a lot of parents fail, you need to stop worrying about running those errands and getting to the mall, find out right away what happened and deal with it) She said " mommy I got into a fight", now my reaction was " Why in the hell didn't the school call me and notify me as to what happened". I immediately turned around and asked her teacher what is going on, and why didn't anyone call me?

Do you know the response I got could have went one or two ways. I decided to take the high route and listen to what the teacher had to say first. She said " I didn't know what happened because I wasn't out there". I thought to myself " who was out there then"? To my surprise the teachers were all so busy taking that no one paid attention. My daughters arm was twisted, she was pushed on the ground and repeatedly kicked. You think I should have known about this from the office. I handled the situation like an adult but inside I was dying.

How could this happen and to my baby? I send her to school to be safe and learn, not be someone's punching bag. This little boy had done this numerous times before. When is it going to be enough? The school didn't do much as to the situation because the little boy cried and apologized to her. His exact words were " I thought that it was okay". Do you not understand that we as the parents live out the examples we set for our kids. It was evident that things were taking place at home and this little boy was bringing it to school. Parents please set good examples. Our kids are the next generation. They can be doctors, lawyers, producers or convicts, murders, rapists. It is ultimately their decision but we do play a big role in their lives.

I know you all don't agree with me and that is fine, but my baby didn't deserve what happened and I believe because I conducted myself like an adult she understood violence isn't the answer. This taught me a little bit about myself. How to control my temper because I know I have a bad one. It doesn't mean that I would let someone walk all over me or my kids., but it has shown me that what I show my kids, they will turn around a mimic it... Please parents talk to your babies about what to do in this situation. Handle yourself like adults and raise them to be something beautiful.