When I found out that I was pregnant with Sariah I didn't expect to lose the friends that I had been friends with for what seemed like forever. It wasn't until around 3 months that I really noticed (now don't get me wrong, a few did stay, the real ones)., but most of them fled like it was a disease. To this day I still don't understand why. I asked and answers were so ridiculous I could not come to grips with the excuses if you ask me. Some of the reasons: "I wanted to party and you couldn't", or "you were starting a family and I was going to be left out".
First things first I am not one to kick someone to the curb because I am having a baby. The only reason that I would, is if you were a bad influence (drugs, prostitution, stripping). Friends aren't something that you just throw away at your disposal.
This is when I really began to understand what the saying " Some friends are for a lifetime, but some are only for a season". I didn't want to believe this, but it is true. We aren't meant to keep the seasonal friends for life. I now know this. I didn't lose them because I had a baby, it just wasn't our season any longer. Now I am not sure if they come back for another season or not, because I am not willing to get hurt again. Or allow my children to meet someone and they are around for a sort while and then they up and leave.
Me becoming a mother has taught me a lot about myself and showed me that the friends I need are the ones willing to stick it out even if I cant go to the club. So what you can go to the club with the other women who don't have kids (or in todays time the ones that don't take care of their kids, their mom or dads do it for them). Hey I call it like I see it.
Now don't take it out of context people. You don't have to loose yourself and stop having fun. I on the other hand am not about to spend my money to get my nails, toes, hair done and a bomb outfit to sit in the dark and be around a bunch of sweaty nasty young people acting crazy. I can do that at home on YouTube for free, okay!
If you are reading this and you don't have kids, but your friends do. Don't leave them because you think that their life is going to change so much that they would kick you to the curb. Talk to them and explain how you feel, because trust me when I say " if you decide to leave and become MIA don't come back"!!!
Seasons come and seasons go. So do friendships. It is something that is hard but when those friends leave God will give you the true friends that you need. To last a lifetime. My kids didn't scare them away. It was just them being selfish, and that is okay. It just isn't our season anymore!!!
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