Put them first!

Right, and even if you are 21
it does not make it right!!!

Do you dedicate yourself to work, friends, or something that you love to do? If you can answer "yes", then why are you not dedicating yourself to your children. I see a lot of mothers that I went to school with, and all I see is them partying. I cant for the life of me understand how you can have children and expect that your life isn't supposed to change even a little.

Your mom/ dad or even your grandparents didn't make the choice to have those babies. You did. Okay so maybe you feel like "I wasn't ready to become a mother"., but honey reality is you are a mother. You have to stop thinking selfishly. It is time to take care of those responsibilities .

Not everyone should be!!!

I am not saying roll over and die. No ma'am, but I a saying take care of your damn kids and stop clubbing and spending your last to get all done up. I have a right to my opinion and I am can express it how I feel. If this hurts someone I will not apologize for it.

As a women that takes care of her children faithfully with a mommy me time date here and there I have the right to say "you are being wrong and selfish". Now what I am about to say might hurt so brace yourself. If you cant handle the truth you might want to leave now.

I see a great deal of women shopping for themselves and going to the hair and nail shop, to get all beautiful for a few hours out on the town. While your kids sit at home with only bread, peanut butter and jelly for dinner. No new clothes or shoes to wear, but the hand me downs someone gave you. I cant understand.

Now you may be saying "my kids got clothes, shoes and a lot of food". Okay then how about one better. Your kids at home being raised by your parents. You think that when they get older they aren't going to remember? That is something that they will be throwing in your face later on in life when you try to discipline them.

You may think partying is only for right now, but honey let me tell you "your kids will only be small once, and all these memories that you are missing out on you can get them back".

Stop being self absorbed and think about those innocent babies. They need you more then you could even know. Moms are so special to children. I see how my girls look at me and it melts my heart. They lean on me for direction, clean clothes, food and so much more. I couldn't even fathom allowing someone else the opportunity to take care of my girls and my son.

I look forward to waking up in the morning and making breakfast for the girls (even though I hate cooking breakfast). It is a time that I cherish. I love hearing what they dreamed about. It takes me back to when I was innocent and nothing in this world mattered to me but my mom. It is amazing. To live life through the eyes of your kids.

Take the time to evaluate yourself. I am not checking your pocket books, but you should. Materialistic things wont buy your kids love. Time is the only thing that will get you that indescribable love only your kids can give you. They aren't judging you by the clothes you have, the nails you wear and the hair you buy. Come on ladies, its time to step it up and put those kids first....

Thank you for reading. I just needed to vent. I had to get this off my chest. I feel so bad for these babies. Love you all.